At work recently, my former team asked me to help with a large project they were working on. I said yes, even though it would be a fairly substantial time commitment on my part, because the work was fascinating, in my area of expertise, and because I missed working with my old team (now I’m on a virtual, global team, which has its pros – working from home when I want – and cons – lack of cohesion/socialization).

The project went very well, and they were happy with the results. I was truly happy to have helped them, simply out of good will (I really like these people, and the work). So I was gratified and excited when I returned from the holiday break to discover they had given me a several hundred dollar bonus for helping them out.

I got a similar bonus a few years ago, and used it to take K on a helicopter tour of Chicago when we first moved to the city, something that was on both of our bucket lists. This time, she encouraged me to use the bonus on myself. So I am!

In March, K’s university holds a ball for faculty and honors students to raise money for the Honors College scholarship fund. We went last year – just a month after Ander’s death – because we thought it’d be good to get out of the house and get cleaned up and dressed up, and it was (I just tried to find a picture for you all, but there are too many other people in the good ones!).

This year, I’m treating myself to a new dress, new shoes, a manicure, haircut/style and – the most vain of all, and the one I’m most embarrassed about – a makeup application. I wear very minimal makeup, but want to look special for this night – just because.  The dress and shoes I can doubly justify, as I’m going to a gala at the New York Public Library in April for work, so I “need” them. And I do, actually, need a haircut. The rest is pure treat, but I’m already looking forward to it! It’s just nice to intentionally do something for yourself every once in a while, and it’s certainly sweeter when you don’t have to pay for it!

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11 Responses to Self-kindness

  1. meghanoc says:

    self kindness can sometimes be such a hard act! but it’s so important for mental health, right? it’s funny how sometimes the little things can bring so much job. lately I’ve been treating myself to looooong hot baths. total waste of water (because I shower after too!) but it’s luxorious!

    I’m glad you’re splurging on makeup! I never do mine (like maaaaybe for a wedding do I put on something) and part of that is because I never learned how! I feel so dumb putting it on and become all adolenscent thinking how everyone must be looking at me and my clown makeup. so rock on! get your face done 🙂

    we’ll want photos!

    • babylossmama says:

      For my sixteenth birthday, my mom got me a Mary Kay makeover birthday party (my choice) and therefore I technically learned all about my best colors and how to put on makeup… but a lot has changed (both with the styles and the makeup options) in the past two decades! So I wear makeup to work, but I’m not great at it. Actually, I have no idea if I am or not. So it’ll be nice to get professional help!

  2. Oh this is lovely! Self-kindness can be a tough thing to do, as Meghan says, but incredibly important! I’m pleased you’re having a splurge on yourself. The event at the New York library sounds exciting too! Second what Meghan says, we are expecting photos…enjoy. You deserve it xxx

  3. Michele says:

    You deserve it! I’m so excited for you, you earned it. Self-kindness and self-care are definitely things I let fall to wayside lately, but they are both so important. It’s great that your hard work will contribute to both! Pictures wanted here as well.

  4. Gretchen says:

    Good for you – I hope even the make-up application is a success:). I am interested to know what kind of work you do…

    • babylossmama says:

      I’m in Human Resources – a specialist in Global Inclusion & Diversity, which I know can mean a lot of things! The “fun” projects are surveys and focus groups to determine where we might have problems with people feeling less-than-welcome, and then creating targeted interventions.

      • Gretchen says:

        Crazy…. I worked at Mercer (in Chicago) for 14 years before I left in mid-2013 (intending to be a full time mom, for a while, to our C.T and to Zachary who was on his way). I began in the Retirement group (actuarial) and spent the last 9-10 years in a variety of roles in sales operations and management.

    • babylossmama says:

      I work at a Mercer competitor :).

  5. Gretchen says:

    And, I wondered if you got to the Arboretum today? You and Ander continue in my thoughts.

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