Author Archives: babylossmama

It is 2015, right?

It is 2015, right? I ask this because, in the world of trying to conceive (TTC) and pregnancy, I have read a LOT of books and websites since we started trying to have a baby three (wow, three) years ago. … Continue reading

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Jewelry, grief and a poem

When Ander died, I was given three lovely, wonderful necklaces. One has his footprints stamped into it (his actual footprints, from a picture!) and his name and birthdate on the back; my mom got K and I each one from … Continue reading

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Grief, 18 months on

Grief, 18 months after my son’s death, is so much less sharp than it was before that at times I feel guilty. I still think of him every day, and likely always will, but the edges have blunted tremendously. I … Continue reading

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Not-so-humble brag

So, ChicagoNow is challenging their bloggers to write a post within an hour of their daiy blogapalooza prompt. Now, I’m not a ChicagoNow blogger, and I didn’t see this prompt until this morning, but I’m always looking for inspiration, so … Continue reading

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“A Tale of 10 Tummies”

I’m often put off by articles celebrating the post-partum body. Not that I think it’s something to be ashamed of – in fact, I’m all for mom bellies being rocked and honored – but because they seem, to me, to … Continue reading

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Making others uncomfortable

This article was making the rounds on the babyloss sites yesterday, and it certainly resonated with me as well. It’s on what you do when someone asks you how many children you have, or if it’s your first, or your … Continue reading

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A poem upon the death of a baby

The lovely Robyna May of “Chasing His Sunshine” shared her son Xavier’s funeral service, and this poem in particular touched me. I reprint it here in memory of all the babies gone too soon. Do not judge a biography by … Continue reading

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It still hurts

15 months, and it still hurts. There are several other two-mama couples at our church. Two have babies under a year old. An acquaintance is coming into town this week. She’s pregnant with her second child. Friends are visiting this weekend. … Continue reading

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What to say, what not to say

I’m sure I’ve posted on this before, but as I can never find these lists when I need them, it bears repeating (if indeed I even am). For your archiving pleasure: “The Complete List of Do’s and Don’ts When Supporting … Continue reading

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The Panel

8:00 Welcome 8:15 Perinatal Loss: First You Care 8:50 Break 9:00 Mindfulness 10:00 Professional Tools for Compassionate Caring 10:45 We Remember: Parent Panel 11:45 Lunch 12:30 What Makes the Discussion Difficult 1:15-1:30 Travel to the Sim Lab- 1 Jelke 1:30 … Continue reading

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