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Jewelry, grief and a poem
When Ander died, I was given three lovely, wonderful necklaces. One has his footprints stamped into it (his actual footprints, from a picture!) and his name and birthdate on the back; my mom got K and I each one from … Continue reading
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Tagged #bereavement, #forgiveness, #grief, #guilt, #infant loss, #jewelry, #mandala, #origami owl, #poetry
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Grief, 18 months on
Grief, 18 months after my son’s death, is so much less sharp than it was before that at times I feel guilty. I still think of him every day, and likely always will, but the edges have blunted tremendously. I … Continue reading
What to say, what not to say
I’m sure I’ve posted on this before, but as I can never find these lists when I need them, it bears repeating (if indeed I even am). For your archiving pleasure: “The Complete List of Do’s and Don’ts When Supporting … Continue reading
“Men Have Miscarriages, Too”
There are many articles on coping with grief after the loss of a baby. These are usually targeted at the mother, as are support groups both online and in person. But there are now fairly ample resources for men and … Continue reading
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The church and trauma
God and the church are touchy subjects in the babyloss community (really, in every community, amirite?). I bristle whenever I hear someone trying to make themselves feel better by telling a babyloss mom that “It was God’s will” or “God … Continue reading
Different anchors, different oceans
Mary Tyler Mom, one of my favorite Chicago local bloggers, has needed anchors a lot in her life – during her daughter Donna’s cancer and after Donna died, and now, helping her elderly father as he suffers declining physical and mental … Continue reading
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Friends who understand
A glorious post by Robyna May about the difference between two types of friends after loss: those who don’t understand, and those who do. An excerpt is below. A friend says, “he was beautiful”. A friend who understands says “he … Continue reading
This time around, or, now
Before: I tried to rein in my hopes. When we were first trying to conceive Ander, I was the killjoy, the “remember our odds are only 25% each time,” the “we’ll see.” For the first ten weeks, I was the … Continue reading
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Tagged #babyloss, #captureyourgrief, #grief, #iui, #pregnancy, #ttc
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Two extremes
I just returned from a nearly three week vacation to the East Coast, so I’m both behind on posting and yet have so much I want to share with you all, about Ander’s memorial service, about how I’m working on … Continue reading
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Tagged #babyloss, #friends, #grief, #loss, #pregnancy, #sensitive
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10 (Non-grief) things about me
In prior posts, I have contemplated my post-babyloss identity. Today, inspired by Carly-Marie’s Link-Up post on Still Standing, here are 10 things about who I am apart from a grieving, babyloss mama. 1. What is your favorite food? Chocolate chip … Continue reading
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baby boy blue 