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“A Tale of 10 Tummies”
I’m often put off by articles celebrating the post-partum body. Not that I think it’s something to be ashamed of – in fact, I’m all for mom bellies being rocked and honored – but because they seem, to me, to … Continue reading
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He should be one (sort of)
Yesterday, on FB, a friend posted a picture from her son’s first birthday. I had forgotten that A and I were initially pregnant at the same time. She was due on May 1. I was due on April 24. She … Continue reading
The church and trauma
God and the church are touchy subjects in the babyloss community (really, in every community, amirite?). I bristle whenever I hear someone trying to make themselves feel better by telling a babyloss mom that “It was God’s will” or “God … Continue reading
Hope is brave
For those of you babyloss mamas who are pregnant after loss or contemplating becoming pregnant after loss, take a minute to read this post over at Still Standing. You are so brave. You have so much love. You deserve the … Continue reading
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Dying is not losing, it’s just unlucky
“When you die, it does not mean that you lose to cancer.” These powerful words by ESPN anchor Stuart Scott, who recently died of cancer, resonated with me. Just take out “to cancer” and replace (or not) with what your … Continue reading
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Friends who understand
A glorious post by Robyna May about the difference between two types of friends after loss: those who don’t understand, and those who do. An excerpt is below. A friend says, “he was beautiful”. A friend who understands says “he … Continue reading
In memory; remembering
Today on Facebook, I finally posted the above picture from Carly Marie, and said: “October is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Month. So if you would this weekend, please remember our son Anderson. Speak his name or write it down, … Continue reading
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Ander’s memorial service
We have been saying since Ander died that his memorial service would take place in the summer, at K’s parents’ house on the lake, where we got married. It would be for family primarily, although local friends would be invited … Continue reading
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Two extremes
I just returned from a nearly three week vacation to the East Coast, so I’m both behind on posting and yet have so much I want to share with you all, about Ander’s memorial service, about how I’m working on … Continue reading
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