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Donating is an act of love
I had a two month supply of breast milk after Ander died, one for the month he was in the hospital and one for the month it took me to wean afterwards. Stopping pumping was excruciating. On one hand, I … Continue reading
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Bad omens
As I mentioned a few days ago, I associate seeing robins with my son coming to say hello. So what does it mean that on my walk yesterday, I saw a dead robin on the side of the road? It … Continue reading
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Tagged #apatosaurus, #bad omen, #brontosaurus, #dinosaur, #NICU, #omen, #robin
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In gratitude for good moderators
Since last June, I have been following a post on Glow in the Woods asking for success stories for pregnancies post-placental abruption. I keep hoping there will be a story like mine, and then a success (no luck yet). I’m hoping … Continue reading
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To do and not to do
In light of yesterday’s post, I was pleased to see Still Standing Magazine’s article for today: “The Complete List of Do’s and Don’ts When Supporting the Bereaved.” I agree with pretty much everything, except that “encourage and give them hope” … Continue reading
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Tagged #abruption, #babyloss, #despair, #encouragement, #hope, #NICU, #odds, #placenta, #worry
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Mothers helping mothers
By the time Ander died, I had been pumping milk for 26 days and nights. The NICU stored it for me in their giant freezers, for my baby, who would never get past cotton swabs and 1 ml drips. Fortunately, … Continue reading
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Supermoon
Last night, I inadvertently did challenge #1 and #2. So, #2 = Watch the moonrise. “It takes some planning,” cautions Elizabeth Dias, who wrote the Times article. “The moon appears on its own schedule.” That’s true, for sure. We went … Continue reading
Ander’s memorial service
We have been saying since Ander died that his memorial service would take place in the summer, at K’s parents’ house on the lake, where we got married. It would be for family primarily, although local friends would be invited … Continue reading
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Tagged #baby, #funeral, #lake, #lavendar #hats, #loss, #luminaries, #memorial, #NICU
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Grief bully
Yesterday, I was having a bad day. I came home from work in a rotten mood for no good or apparent reason, and even exercising and watching “Game of Thrones” didn’t perk me up. “What’s wrong?” K asked. “I don’t … Continue reading
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Tagged #babyloss, #bully, #coping, #grief, #grief bully, #loss, #miscarriage, #mom, #NICU, #preemie, #premature
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“I had a preemie too!”
Today’s medical advances mean that babies born prematurely are much more likely to survive. Time magazine’s recent cover story, “Saving Preemies,” which I’m not linking to because the first thing you’ll see is a very triggery picture of a small … Continue reading
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Tagged #albany, #ander, #anderson, #angel, #babyloss, #denver, #march of dimes, #memory, #mom, #new haven, #NICU, #preemie, #pregnancy, #prematurity, #time
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A letter to a nurse
During our 26-day stay in the NICU, we received the very best care from our team of NICU doctors and nurses. I wrote the following when I nominated one of our nurses for an award, but I’m posting it here … Continue reading
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Tagged #ander, #anderson, #babyloss, #neonatal, #neonatologist, #newborn, #NICU, #nurse, #nurses, #photograph
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baby boy blue 