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It is 2015, right?
It is 2015, right? I ask this because, in the world of trying to conceive (TTC) and pregnancy, I have read a LOT of books and websites since we started trying to have a baby three (wow, three) years ago. … Continue reading
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“A Tale of 10 Tummies”
I’m often put off by articles celebrating the post-partum body. Not that I think it’s something to be ashamed of – in fact, I’m all for mom bellies being rocked and honored – but because they seem, to me, to … Continue reading
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Location privilege
I recently alluded to my location privilege, as I called it, in a post where I detail how many other same-sex couples we know have had or are having babies. But to briefly expound on the issue: seriously, I don’t … Continue reading
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Ashes and teddy bears
A FB post on the Washington, DC area Pregnancy and Infant Loss Network page led me to this prompt: “A conversation about acceptance has led me to post this for you to fill in: “I have my child’s body/ashes __________, … Continue reading
Give it a try
I saw this quote today on Twitter and it really just spoke to my heart. This Friday is the two-year anniversary of Anderson’s original due date. What’s in a due date, really, when your child has a birth date? Every … Continue reading
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So many babies
Over on Autostraddle the other day I was reading a new series about a same-sex couple starting their family (she was 18 weeks pregnant when she wrote the first post; I would imagine she’s now closer to 22). It was … Continue reading
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Hope is brave
For those of you babyloss mamas who are pregnant after loss or contemplating becoming pregnant after loss, take a minute to read this post over at Still Standing. You are so brave. You have so much love. You deserve the … Continue reading
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Something that still rankles
Most days now, I have my anger under control. Anger, as babyloss moms know, is probably the last grief manifestation to leave: anger at the helplessness, the unfairness, at others who seem to get and stay pregnant so easily. Some … Continue reading
In memory; remembering
Today on Facebook, I finally posted the above picture from Carly Marie, and said: “October is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Month. So if you would this weekend, please remember our son Anderson. Speak his name or write it down, … Continue reading
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This time around, or, now
Before: I tried to rein in my hopes. When we were first trying to conceive Ander, I was the killjoy, the “remember our odds are only 25% each time,” the “we’ll see.” For the first ten weeks, I was the … Continue reading
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baby boy blue 